Raising children these days is a daunting task for even the most experienced parent but being a single parent brings on a whole new set of challenges that only someone in this position can imagine. To make things more complicated when there is a parent raising a child of a different gender there arise unique and significant challenges that require specific attention. In general, a father is a role model for his son and a mother is a role model for her mother. In the case of single parents when they are raising the opposite gender offspring, this becomes a difficult tasks, however, there are solutions.
For a father raising a daughter there are basics that a man needs to understand. First of all, men and women (even girls) think differently. This becomes even more apparent as your little girl grows up. As a baby, and toddler Dad can provide all the basic care and nurturing that his daughter needs. As she gets older, she will need someone to model the female gender and the things that she will be experiencing. No matter how much a dad loves his daughter, he cannot provide this female touches to her upbringing.
One thing that can be very helpful in this type of situation is to recruit a trustworthy female friend or family member that can take the extra time and care to provide to your daughter. Make sure that this person shares the same values and principles that you do so that you don’t have to be concerned with your daughter being led astray. Make sure that it is someone that is willing to make a commitment to ‘being there’ for your daughter.
Needing a woman in her life does not necessarily exclude her need for you. Be supportive of her interests whether you understand them or not. Recognize the things that are important to her. Remember that females process emotions different from males and give her the space she needs to understand this. Create a supportive environment for her to grow and be social. Always make sure that whether or not you understand what she is going through, you will always be there for her. Your support will be one of the most encouraging and esteem building things in her life. Always keeps the line of communication open with her and be honest with her even if it’s something that you don’t understand, you will grow and learn together!