What Are My Chances?
Wanting certainty is something that, as humans, we crave. As such, when you start the process to establish custody or visitation rights over your children, one of the first questions is going to be, “what are my chances of getting custody of my kids?” If you’re hoping for a yes or no answer, it’s not as easy as all that. The judge doesn’t know you on a personal level, they’re going to make a decision based on the facts of the case. Here’s some tips on how to look at your situation:
- Take A Step Back: Try and see the big picture. As a parent, it’s almost impossible to look at your situation from a third person point of view. But it’s important to see the issue as a whole before you start pushing buttons, you need to make a plan.
- Look At The Facts: The outcome of the situation depends on the facts of the case. Is the other parent working? Do you they have a working vehicle? Do they drink? How often? This kind of stuff is what the judge is going to weigh out when making a decision; the same goes if the two of you are coming to an agreement.
The ability to make decisions and judgment without your emotions getting in the way is going to be your ally here. Obviously this is stressful, and nobody likes what’s going on here. But it is happening and you need to do something about it.
Make A List. This is where we zoom in on the picture we have. Write down all the things about yourself and the other parent that are good and bad. This puts things in perspective for you. Who lives closer to their school? Which one of you works more? Does one of you make more money than the other? In a perfect world there wouldn’t be any stress or name calling. But a situation where one parent is bad mouthing the other in front of the kids it needs to be addressed. If this is going to be an issue in the future, put it in your list and factor that kind of stuff into your decision making. Our culture dictates that mothers are a better choice for granting custody. If you’re a father, this is your opportunity to prove to the judge and yourself that you are an equal parent in this situation.
- Parents have an Equal shot at custody rights (aboutthechildrenllc.wordpress.com)
- 10 mistakes Not to make while fighting for custody (aboutthechildrenllc.wordpress.com)
- Grandparent Visitation and Custody Rights in California (aboutthechildrenllc.wordpress.com)
- Basics – How to get Child Custody (aboutthechildrenllc.wordpress.com)