Going to court and getting a court order signed by a judge is the goal of establishing rights as your child’s parent; whether you’re a mother or a father, the latter being slightly more difficult if you need to determine if you are the child’s father. Like all things however, sometimes you need to patch a hole. You might find yourself unsatisfied with what your court order outlines in your parenting plan due to changing circumstances in your lives. This could be for many reasons. Setting aside your own feelings towards the other parent could be difficult even after you guys have gone to court. If you don’t get along, you might have feelings about your children living with your ex’s new partner. Living conditions and occupations change, and you need to be able to be flexible. Here are some common reasons why someone might change their existing court order:
- Your kids don’t get along with your ex’s new partner.
- Your ex has changed jobs and spends more time away from home.This could raise some questions such as, who is with the children when they’re not at home. How long are they with that person? Is that person a good role model? Etc.
- Your work less hours than you did before and want more time with your kids.
- Trouble at school. Sometimes the transition hits your kids harder than you think and their grades begin to fall. It’s not important who thinks they are the better parent, it’s about what or who fosters a better educational environment. Do they have a place to do homework? Are you or the other parent there to help them? Weigh out the pros and cons.
In some parts of the country the court will let the child use their own judgment. Regardless of the reason for this modification to take place, the fact remains that the kids are what is important here. Much should be done to keep their world as intact as possible. If the circumstances of you returning to the court room are less than pleasant, this is doubly important. If your kids are in a bad situation, it’s your job to show the court the evidence. The judge wants to be able to come to a decision that benefits the child, even if this means some sacrifice on you end; help them help you and your kids.