There is a general idea of what the role of the mother and father should be. The common idea of what these roles should be is the woman staying home with the kids and the man goes out and works all day. “Should” is a dangerous word to use though. The world is changing and so are the ways families operate. Families are still whole machines that need all the parts working in unison in order to work properly, but stereotypes are losing ground in this day and age. Many fathers find themselves in roles that a woman would be expected to do. Traditions in gender roles are becoming something else and as our society changes, so do our agreed upon meanings and values.
There is something to be said about the traditional nuclear family however and it has by no means disappeared from American culture. As a newly single parent having to be two people at once, this can be a serious life changer. This might completely change your world, your very outlook on life and what is important, or it could just mean some added stress to your situation. Either way, take inventory of all the things in your life and figure out what needs to stay, what needs to go and what needs to be added to the mix.
Having someone cook and clean can easily be taken for granted. If your skills in these departments are lacking, now is the time to work on that. Simple things like a good meal and a clean house can have incredible psychological effects on your family. These things symbolize stability in you and your child’s life. Children are very sensitive to changes in their environment. Creating a stable home takes precedence over other aspects of your personal life. Holding down a full time job and making enough money to support yourself and your child, maintaining the household on top of seeing to your child’s needs can be a big task and maybe even a little scary. There is only one direction to move in, forward.
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