Taking the High Road

As you go through the trials and tribulations of reshaping your family, keeping your cool can sometimes be difficult in the heat of the moment. However, you both want things to work out, ultimately, in your child’s favor. What does this mean exactly? The reality of the court process is that it’s going to take a lot of time and money. Putting a price tag on family is not what this is about, but not having to pay thousands of dollars on an attorney sounds good to me.

Solving things outside of court is a great way to try and fix the communications issues within the family, and solve the problem at a cheaper cost.These kinds of family negotiations are commonly referred to as Mediation. You can go through mediation the easy way or the hard way, depending on how well both parties get along. If it’s going to erupt into a fight every time the two of you meet, you might want to go a different route. This could be an exercise in self control. Who knows, you might even learn something about each other.

Shaking hands on the subject and coming to an agreement without a judge isn’t going to take as long as the court system but it will require you to devote the time and effort to tallying up all the logistical aspects of your lives such as distances from school and houses. These peace talks should be treated as an opportunity to try and work things out before things go pear shaped.

The thing to remember about out of court settlements is that both parties must want to work together for the greater good. Mediation doesn’t work for everyone. Obtaining a court order signed by a judge is your other option for permanently assuring your child’s well being. Going to court should be a last resort however. Finding a peaceful resolution yields greater benefits than the judge’s gavel.

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3 comments on “Taking the High Road
  1. MG says:

    My children are in their twenties now. I wish there had been a site like this when I was going through my divorce. I truly believe more ephasis has to be put on “taking the high road” and mediation so BOTH parties know how important it is. It is very difficult to co-parent when one person refuses to see the value in working things out for the benefit of the children. The courts can only go so far.

    • Well stated. As parents it is very crucial to take all measures necessary when addressing these matters. However, even after court proceedings are finished, both parties have to make the commitment to follow whats been ordered. Thanks for commenting, and we appreciate your support. We’re simply attempting to make a difference in an ever deteriorating court system that will affect future generations.

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