Emotional Stability for Kids
There are a lot of resources out there for parents going to court for divorce and child custody and/or visitation. As a parent you’re trying to make a decision that’s in the child’s best interests but it’s easy to get caught up in the process of going to court, signing documents and talking lawyers, social workers of police. Making sure your child has the right emotional support as you and your ex go through the motions of finalizing your divorce and establishing a custody or visitation schedule is paramount. It’s not uncommon for some people to not know how to achieve this. Providing proper support for your kids can mean a lot of different things and indeed there are a lot of different ways you can go about this. Here are some ways to support your kids’ psychological needs while you go through your divorce.
- Talk To Them. Rather than bringing a third party into the matter to assess the situation, simply talking to them about how they feel allows for both of you to open up about the whole thing. If they’re upset about you and your ex splitting up, expressing their thoughts and feelings on the subject is a healthy way to cope with the situation. Not allowing those feelings to come to the surface can cause children to act out in other ways.
- Having a Structured Environment. Providing your kids with a structured environment will help them maintain their grip on the situation. Keeping their minds on everyday things is a great way to promote some stability in their lives. If you don’t have the experience of having your parents split up at a young age, it can be hard to understand how much this can turn a child’s world upside down. Keeping a routine throughout the week is a great way to keep your kids’ life as undisturbed as possible.
- Third Party Evaluator. For some, the word therapy can bring some negative connotations. Having your child talk to a psychologist isn’t a bad thing and doesn’t mean that there’s anything wrong with them. A lot of parents don’t know where to begin to help their kids cope with the change that’s going on. Having a professional who is trained to evaluate during these kinds of situations can be a great outlet and resource for you and your children.
What matters most is that your child knows that you are on their side one hundred percent. Having parents fighting and arguing can be confusing for a child. It’s easy for children to mistake your behavior as some sign that they’ve done something wrong. They need to know what’s going on and why it’s happening. Being truthful with your kids and sharing your feelings with them will allow them to do the same with you. It doesn’t take a lot to show your children that they matter in your life. Make the first step and show them. In life, it’s not about what we say but what we do.
- Which Child Custody Plan is Best For You and Your Children? (aboutthechildrenblog.com)