Part 1 of Winning Custody Of Your Children
A lot of parents out there don’t know where to start to win custody of their children. It’s not necessarily a question of having more money than your ex or having a better attorney; it’s about being an involved parent and showing that fact to the judge. This isn’t a popularity contest and the judge does not care if you’ve hired Johnnie Cochran. The judge wants to see that you have a stable life, have the means to provide for your child and that you’re a responsible person in general. He/she is going to make a decision that’s in the best interests of the child. The way you live and care about your child will determine this decision. So what are some things that can help you along the path to obtaining custody or visitation? Here are a few things to think about:
- Are you involved? Now is not the time to leave the details to someone else. It’s important to focus on the big picture but big pictures are made up of little details. If you’re the kind of person that delegates, it might be time to take matters into your own hands. In the court room, there’s nobody there to delegate to. Get involved in your child’s life and show this to the judge.
- Environment. Take a second and step back from your life and make sure you’re not bringing your children around places that they shouldn’t be or people that aren’t good to have around them. If you and your friends like to drink and play poker at your house, ask yourself if your kids should around that. There’s a time and a place for stuff like that; if you’ve got a six year old at home this might not be that time and place.
- Where and When? Knowing details of times and places which involve your kids is a great way to not only stay on top of things and keep track of past occurrences, if your ex is trying to use some past event against you, but it also shows the judge that you’re not up in the clouds. You’re down here with your kids trying to provide the best life for them. This also ties into the part where you show the judge that you’re ex isn’t the best parent to have full custody of your child. Having examples of poor parenting on their part, negligence or irresponsibility in general are all things that can work to your advantage.
This shouldn’t be about attacking your ex in the court room. This is simply about presenting facts and having the judge make a decision based on that. They don’t want to hear any back and forth argument; he said she said doesn’t fly here. If you’re rational and clear minded, then you will do fine in court. Building a case against your ex does not mean you need to call them names or point fingers. If they left the kids in the car for 4 hours at the mall, then have something to back that up. If your ex is telling the judge that you went out gambling and drinking with your buddies last Thursday, have some proof on hand to show that judge that you were actually at home helping your child with their homework.
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