How To Win In A Child Custody Case
Many people have a hard time with the personal aspects of going through a child custody case, aside from the logistical and legal complications involved in such a situation. One of the largest contributors to a negative experience during a child custody battle is problems with communication. If nobody is talking to each other, nothing is going to get done. This has many different effects on your case and the people involved and especially yourself; if you’re not being upfront about what’s going on then no progress will be made. Communication issues can bleed through into other aspects of the case such as preparation, being dependable and responsible for yourself and others involved and most of all where your child stands in all of this.
- Doing Your Homework. A lot of people have a problem with being prepared for a child custody case in general, not necessarily just the court room. Being organized is probably one of the best things you can do for yourself. Showing up unprepared with the proper paperwork or lack thereof or having inadequate records of events or financial information is like showing up to a party not dressed properly, you stand out. Make sure you cover all your bases. This doesn’t just add to your court case, but it also shows those who are handling the case that you’re on top of things.
- Be There When It Counts. If you’re not dependable, then you’re going to have a hard time getting the child custody arrangement you think is best for the family. Aside from the judge and whatever third party is involved seeing that you can be places when you’re supposed to be, your kids take notice of such things as well. One of the most common negative feelings a child can have throughout a divorce, if a parent is somewhat flaky, is the feeling of being let down, and this echoes on into the rest of their lives as well. One of the biggest things in life is simply showing up on time. You can’t miss a court date or a meeting your attorney or your ex’s attorney, it looks bad.
- Where Does Your Child Fit Into All This? This may seem like an obvious answer because they are the subject of this issue but knowing where they stand, emotionally and psychologically, is incredibly important. If they’re upset about the custody process of all this, you need to talk to them. Avoiding the issue is an easy way to deal with things, but you’re not really dealing with the custody issue at hand. Take notice if they’re mood changes or if they start having trouble in schools. While they are the subject of your custody case, it’s important not to get them in the middle of anything. They shouldn’t be a middle man between you and your ex. They need to know that they have nothing to worry about and that life will go on regardless of you and your ex, their mother or father, not getting along. You never want to fall into the trap of parental alienation. This can truly be detrimental to your custody case.
Not everyone is a good communicator. If this is an issue for you, your kids, or between you and your ex, make sure you find a solution. Not knowing when court dates are and having no communication with the other party or your child can make things a lot worse and can actually work against you. There are resources out there to help with these types of factors. It’s ok to ask for help. This could even be a great way to get closer to your family as you go through the motions to try and win custody of your child.
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