Child Custody – Other Methods To Help Your Winning

What You Can Do To Win Custody Of Your Child

                A big factor in starting to make a move towards seeking custody of your child is to know the right strategy to use depending on your particular situation. Knowing differences between what to do if you’re married or unmarried to the mother or father or when to file for custody depending on what side of this you’re on can easily influence your chances of winning custody or visitation of your children. Having the correct documents to file with the court is essential. If you are doing this without an attorney, make sure you do your homework and know exactly what you need, and what it needs to say. Your own personal stability will come into question as well. Being financially secure or independent is a great advantage to have if the other parent is not and they are filing for full custody. Here are a few tips on what steps to take and under what circumstances they can be employed:

  • Married Or Unmarried. If you are a father who is married to the mother of your child, odds are that you’re on the birth certificate of your child. In family court, as a father, this gives you a leg up in the game. If you’re filing for custody, establishing paternity is essential. This is obviously not an issue for mothers but as a father you need to find out if the child is yours before you start filing papers. If you’re an unmarried mother and you want full custody of your child for safety concerns or financial concerns, filing as soon as the child is born is a great way to stay ahead. Newborns need their mother, it’s that simple. Most judges will not remove a baby from it’s mother unless it is absolutely necessary; this being said, file before the other party has a chance to, timing is important.
  • The Right Stuff. When you go to court, whether it’s criminal or family law, it’s of the utmost important to have the correct documents to file. If you have an attorney, this usually isn’t a problem because that’s what you’re paying them for. However, if you’re doing this by yourself, you need to have the right information and have the right documents to file with the court. Do your homework before you start writing stuff down; know the difference between a motion and a petition etc. There are organizations out there that can assist with this specific matter, the internet or your local court house are great sources of information on resources like that.
  • How Do You Look? The way you appear to the judge will affect the outcome of your case. The judge is going to look at your financial stability; are you able to pay for everything the child needs? Your personal psychological stability might come into question if an evaluation is requested or ordered prior to your court date. If anything is less than optimal, you might want to rethink what you’re asking for. If you don’t have a job or have a history of abuse, substance or otherwise, asking for full custody might not be the best strategy. Make sure you talk to a professional who can advise you on what you can do given your current position.

There are more factors involved that can be discussed in one article alone but these are some of the basics. The most important thing is to make sure the child is in good hands. You might have to put aside your own wants and feelings on the subject to look at the situation objectively. It can be difficult to do but standing back and acknowledging that you are the right parent or the wrong parent to take care of this child is what needs to be done. Find out what resources are out there to help you.

Click here to learn more www.AboutTheChildren.org

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8 comments on “Child Custody – Other Methods To Help Your Winning
  1. Serenity says:

    Thank you for another worthy article!

  2. Serenity says:

    Reblogged this on Serenity's Musings.

  3. Great articles this week! Keep them up!

    • Thanks Brenda. Honestly there are many factors to consider in a child custody battle and most parents want a quick answer on how to “Win”. Reality is, all cases are different and require different attention to which variables are relevant to each case. Thanks for the Twitter mentions, keep the synergy going!

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  5. I feel so deeply for judges who must decide based on emotion-filled rhetoric whether a parent is interested in ‘winning’ custody instead of advocating for the best interests of their children…

    • Its a tough job to maintain. Judges, especially now, are busier than ever with rampant family court cases as the population has grown and little constructive change to the system itself has burdened many parents than ever before.
      Through the strife and dissatisfaction its easy to get caught up in your own situation as a parent and look at the judge as the bad guy. However there definitely are judges who have developed some very short fuses and taken the power they possess to order uncalled for recommendations.
      Every parent should really be as unselfish as they can, even through these difficulties and do what truly is in the best interest of their children. One parent at time I suppose.

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