Proof of Parenting
An unfortunate part of the family legal process is having to prove to the judge that the other parent is not a good person for your child to be around. The point in family court is not to necessarily bad mouth or point fingers at your ex but if you’re child isn’t well off with that parent and you are under the impression that they would do better with you, then it might become necessary to prove to the judge that your ex is unfit to have the kids. If this is what you need to do there are necessary steps to take and factors that you need to take into account in order to win custody of your children. Here are a couple things to keep in mind if this is the route that you’re taking:
- Environment. What’s their living situation like? Nine times out of ten the judge will base his decision on this. If your ex is petitioning the court for full custody, and you’re trying to prove that this is the opposite of what needs to happen, the judge needs to see, if this is indeed the case, that their house is unsafe or unhealthy for the child to be around. Aside from health risks from unclean environments, stressful environments can also be put into this category. If your ex’s new boyfriend or girlfriend isn’t a good person for your child to be around, make this the cornerstone of your argument and have proof to back it up. Hearsay does not hold up in court.
- Involvement. Being an involved parent not only strengthens the bonds between a parent and their child but it also makes parents look good in court. If both you and your ex are seeking full custody of your child, bringing up how involved you are in their life is a great argument to bring to the table. Things like going to their school meetings and participating in activities after school or on weekends are things that make you look good if the other parent does not do these kinds of things. Obviously it’s different if your ex isn’t involved because they are working long hours to provide for the child; context is important in any situation like this.
As a parent your job is to do what’s best for your child, bottom line. In custody battles in which both parents want the same thing, if you believe that you’re the better parent to have the child placed with, make sure it’s the right decision. It can be overwhelming and frustrating to have the other parent asking for full custody when you know and have proof that their personal lives do not support having a child around. Your job is to show this to the judge in a way that it makes sense to them and they can clearly see the truth from the facts.
- How Does A Judge Make Decisions with Child Custody Cases? (aboutthechildrenblog.com)
- Which Child Custody Plan is Best For You and Your Children? (aboutthechildrenblog.com)
- How to Win Child Custody in Court (aboutthechildrenblog.com)
- Child Custody – More on How To Win in Custody Court (aboutthechildrenblog.com)