So What Does The Best Interest Of The Child Actually Mean?

How Do You Know What Is In The Best Interests Of The Child?

                When you’re going through court seeking custody of your child the judge will always make a decision that reflects the best interests of the child. It’s easy to throw this kind of terminology around without really know what that means. So this begs the question, what can you do to make a choice the really reflects your child’s best interests. Short answer, you’re going to have to look at things objectively, stand back and see all the moving parts of the situation before you start pushing buttons. Let’s take a look at factors to consider before you start filing papers and going to court over your child custody issue.

  • What’s Your Living Situation Like? You gotta look at the big picture here. If you’re living in a one room apartment and the other parent owns a house, the house is the better place for the child to reside primarily. Emotions run high in situations like this and it’s easy to misinterpret the situation as your child being taken from you or you not being able to see your child. This isn’t necessarily what’s happening. It’s simply better for the child if they have a better place to live. This can promote a myriad of positive effects in your child’s life from better grades in school to better emotional stability.
  • School Districts. This aspect of your decision making also has to do with the location you and the child would be living in. In some cases when parents get divorced or separated one of them, or both, moves to a different town or state. In this kind of situation, before you go petitioning the court for full custody of your child, take a look at the school district they would be in with you or your ex. Choice in schools and school districts is very important for promoting overall well being for your children’s lives. Make sure they’re getting the most they can out of their educational experiences.
  • What Do They Want? A lot of times parents forget to stop and think about what the child actually wants. Obviously if the child is too young to really make a decision like this then you have to make a decision for them but if they’re able to have a well thought out opinion on the matter, take it into account. Communication is really key here. If nobody is talking to anyone here, especially the child involved, then the outcome of the whole custody battle will be one that not everyone likes, in the case the child. Talk to your kids before you make the big decisions on their behalf.

The main thing to keep in mind is to try and keep your emotions out of the decisions you make. This can be hard to do and the majority of the time you won’t be able to fully step out of  the situation emotionally. The goal here is to think and act objectively though. The judge will do the same in making their ruling on where the child should live. Keep in mind that the judge doesn’t know you or the other parent or the child. Their job is to look at the facts in front of them and make a choice based on what’s on paper and what the parents are petitioning for. If your choice does not reflect this, the odds of you getting what you’re asking for decrease. If you’re completely lost, talk to a third party legal professional in your area who can better interpret the scenario and help you weigh out your options and give you some insight into what the judge might say. Advocacy groups such as ourselves are also great resources for parents starting this process and can help you come to a decision.

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4 comments on “So What Does The Best Interest Of The Child Actually Mean?
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  2. Carolyn says:

    Biggest factor to consider when thinking of the child first is communication. If you “win” custody, don’t alienate your child from their non-custodial parent. Don’t do that to your child.

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