How Are You Doing Personally?
It’s really easy to become overwhelmed in a child custody dispute. Emotions are running high, you’re stressed out and your life is being turned upside down because the person you had a child with and maybe started to build a life with, no longer fits into your life like they did before. A court case for divorce and custody or visitation depends on the facts of the case and the documents you bring to court. One aspect of this that’s often overlooked is your mental condition through this whole thing. It’s simple, when you’re stressed out, over worked or spread too thin, you’re not thinking clearly. This is one of those times when you can’t afford this to happen to you because the outcome of this case affects your child’s life. Here’s a few things you can employ to make it easier for you to invest yourself fully in this dispute without effecting your mental strength and ability to make confident decisions.
- Keep A List. If you’re not the best at remembering little details, trying to keep track of everything that’s said and done in your head will put a lot of strain on you. Forgetting details of your case such as who said what and when or any dates and occurrences that your ex could potentially use against you could be detrimental to your case. Keeping a journal, holding onto receipts or saving voicemails are great things to have. You’ll find that if you’re put it on paper, it frees up your mind for other things.
- Mental Stretching. It may sound silly, but finding way to relax your mind, and maybe even your body, will increase your overall well being. You don’t have to get into anything too hokey like teas or yoga, unless that’s your thing, but anything to keep your mind limber and free of stress will help you out more than you’d think. We all have things that make us happy, whether it’s fishing, sitting on the back porch with a cup of coffee, painting or cooking, all these things make us feel better and relieve some of the pressure that can be put on you. Doing these things with your child is also a great way to do two things at once, strengthening your bond with them as well as doing some good ole fashioned therapy for yourself.
It doesn’t really matter what you do to take some of stress off, as long as it’s not self destructive. The end goal is to get custody of your children, or getting some sort of shared custody or visitation schedule that produces the best outcome for your child. In order to do this, you need to be making good decisions. Irrational decisions come from unfocused minds. In a child custody case, you simply cannot allow that to happen, your kids depend on your ability to think straight.
Great job! Keep up the good work!
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