Parenting Advice from Toddlers to Teenagers
Every now and again it’s good to reflect on your values and the way you engage with your children in your family. Whether you’re in the middle of a divorce with your ex or it’s years after that whole business and you’re just being with your kids; the things we teach our kids are what influence the next generation and so on and so forth for as long as people walk the Earth. So it comes to the point where you might be examining just how your child is developing their personality and social skills that make them a person. There is a ton of advice out there for parents. Everyone has a different piece of useful information but the central idea of just being there for your kids is always present. What form does this take for you? It could mean personal beliefs upheld by the family as a whole, it could mean the difference between political parties or even an abstract sense of the world (Is the glass half full? If a tree falls in the woods does it make a sound?). Let’s keep with tradition and toss out a couple of useful tips/ideas to think about if you find yourself asking these kinds of questions.
- What Are You Teaching Them? It sounds like a rhetorical question but stop and think about it. Look at the social circles you associate with or the activities that you do from your child’s perspective. Do you follow through with what you say you’ll do? Are you there when you need to be? This kind of stuff sets examples for them and they learn about the world from watching and listening to you. A lot of new parents have to sometimes make a transition from the going out, loud music staying up late lifestyle to a more quiet or constructive lifestyle to accommodate the duties they have to their family.
- Traditional Family Values. The age of the nuclear family is not yet gone and neither are traditional ideas of hard work and the value of the truth. Instilling these kinds of ideas in your children and making sure they become good productive members of society is your job as a parent. Teaching your kids the value of a dollar, the difference between right and wrong and when to draw the line takes effort and effective communication from your end. Sit down with your kids and talk to them about this kind of stuff.
Whether you’ve got a small child or a kid in high school, the examples you set dictate how your children will act in the world and towards others. If you’ve just gone through a divorce and custody dispute and are working on reconstructing your family and adapting to the change of being a single parent, this is even more important. When you talk to your children about important issues in life and teach them how to be good people and make the right decisions through good judgment, you’re giving them the tools they need to get through life and pass those teachings on to their own children.
- Single Parents: The Truth Behind Cultural Stigmas (everydayfamily.com)
- 8 Ways to NOT Spoil Your Kids (everydayfamily.com)