How To Engage With Your Children
The traditional family structure of the working father and the stay-at-home mom is not yet a thing of the past. In a divorce and custody dispute, having to be both parents at once can be a jarring thing to have happen to you if you’re not prepared for it. A lot of fathers and mothers out there are left scratching their heads over how to go about maintaining a functioning household. It might sound silly but cooking and cleaning don’t fall under a lot of people’s realm of expertise; some single fathers find themselves not knowing how to cook dinner for their children or turn everyone’s clothes red in the wash. This moment of “what do I do now?” might also mean finding ways to entertain your kids at home or on weekends. If you find yourself not knowing what to do or just aren’t coming up with any ideas, here are a couple ways to cope with the change and stand your ground in the face of your opposition.
- Need A Little Flare In The Kitchen? Some people just don’t know how to cook. It’s quite common to find yourself being a single parent all of a sudden and still asking what’s for dinner; this time the person you’re asking is you. A little effort in this department is really all you need. The advent of the internet can put quick and easy recipes in the palm of your hand. This can even be something that you can incorporate into the time you spend with your kids. Whatever your shared custody agreement is, try making one of the days they stay with you a night where you try and make something new or just break bread together as an activity in general.
- What Do You Want To Do? You might also be wondering what to do with your kids. If you were the parent that was gone a lot of the time earning the money to keep things going and now have to restructure the hours you work or even get a new job to accommodate the custody or visitation schedule you agreed on with your ex, you could be faced with no knowing what to do with your children when you’re together. You could reflect back on the things you did with your parents for ideas on family activities; going to the county fair isn’t out of style. The best way to find things to do together though, is to get to know your child. Find out what they like to do. If you see them looking at pictures of bicycles, surf boards or baseball cards act on these things as an actor takes cues for their next line.
You don’t have to be in the entertainment business to spend time with your kids and make it a positive experience for them and you. Their happiness and well being is what’s important and it’s your job as a parent to make that happen. There are a lot of parents out there who are in your same position. Likewise, there are a lot of resources out there for parents in all phases of their parenting time; whether you’ve just gotten divorced and are a new single parent or you’re a seasoned veteran in the single parent game.