Divorce and custody disputes are going to be different in every situation not only because of the unique circumstances and people involved but also because every state has different guidelines for how these things are supposed to go, what rights are recognized, how to proceed if both parties can’t agree etc. It’s important to know what your state’s statutes on divorce and child custody and visitation are if you want to improve the odds of getting something that you want as well as what’s best for the children involved. There are several ways to prepare yourself and execute the appropriate response for your custody or visitation problem, here are some things to check out and keep in mind if you find yourself going through this and not knowing how to proceed.
- Know Your State. A good place to start is your local state/government website for information on how California or Wyoming or Maryland handles these kinds of cases, the procedure and definitions of certain types of custody is not uniform throughout the country unfortunately. For example, some states don’t recognize grandparent rights; some do but don’t favor grandparents representing themselves. Certain states’ procedure on what testimony can be brought before the judge is different as well. For instance, some judges won’t incorporate the child’s desires into their decision for where the child will live. If you’re representing yourself pro se, the more information you have to use the better. As such, visiting local websites for your local county court house or state laws, past legislatures etc. will arm you with the knowledge you need to move forward with your case.
- Best Interests. In any custody or divorce scenario, if you’re stepping in front of the judge to present your side of things, this means that you and your ex were unable to reach an agreement. The upside of coming to an arrangement in a civil manner outside of court is that everyone remains on good terms with each other and everybody’s needs are accounted for and met, hopefully. The downside of this however, is that there is nothing legally binding saying who gets what. In other words, the same problem that drove the two of your apart or started the dispute over custody or visitation, could keep coming up and everyone has to be dragged through the mud again. Establishing a court order outlining a custody or parenting plan, ensures that everyone gets a fair deal.
- Child Custody Plans And You (aboutthechildrenblog.com)