Put Your Children’s Needs Before Your Own

Being A Good Parent Means Putting Your Child First



Any parent that’s worth their salt will say this is obvious. As part of a family unit, your children depend on you for guidance in the world around them. If you’re going through a divorce and custody battle with your ex, the choices you make and petitions you put forth to the court are going to directly effect your kids. In family court, if you can’t come to an agreement with your ex, the judge is forced to make a decision that takes into account what both parents want and what appears to be in the best interest of the child. Putting your child first inside and outside of the court room should be your primary concern. Here are some tips as a parent and as a plaintiff or defendant.


  • What It Takes To Be A Parent. Raising a child is a big job. If you’re a new parent it can be downright intimidating. Doing the right thing means doing things that don’t necessary benefit you. Things like helping your children write a book report, taking them fishing and showing them how to tie knots not only strengthens your relationship but also lays the foundation for their psychological well being.
  • Making The Right Decision In Court. Every state has their own take on how much the details of individual cases matter in the decision making process regarding the outcome of the case. Mediation can be an excellent tool to settle things in an easier and peaceful manner than going to court. Unfortunately, many mediation hearings go south and do not resolve the issue entirely; most of the time it’s due to both parties not being able to communicate effectively with each other. If the custody or visitation dispute ends up on the judges desk, and the two of you are unable to talk to each other without fighting, the judge will make a decision that’s in the best interests of the child in question. If you know you won’t be able to come to an understanding with your ex, grooming your petition to the court to reflect what is objectively best for child will greatly improve your chances of getting custody.


What’s important to keep in mind is that the decisions the judge makes for you and your family, if this is where you’re finding yourself, are impartial. What this means is that the judge doesn’t know you on a personal level. Their job is to look at all the facts of your case, ask some pertinent questions and cross reference all the factors of the case with state laws and/or guidelines and make their decision. With this in mind, it’s not a bad idea to base your strategy in the court room around this fact.

See more at –> www.AboutTheChildren.org

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Posted in A Childs Best Interests, Child Custody, child custody battles, Child Visitation, Courtroom Preparation, Divorce, Family Court, Joint Custody, Parenting Plans
2 comments on “Put Your Children’s Needs Before Your Own
  1. Andrea says:

    I have a question I have to appear in teh Ex Parte Department of Seattle Court room. It says I am,”to appear in ex parte to make my argument to the court.” What does that mean?

    • Hi Andrea,

      It sounds like you need to respond to the request, and appear to state your position of the ex parte. We help parents with their responses often. If you want help with this, please feel free to contact us. There is more information we need to know in order to see what can be done. You can contact us at http://www.aboutthechildren.org and ask to speak with an advocate. Look forward to hearing from you.

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