Getting A Divorce Is A Big Decision
If you’re a parent having trouble with your ex, getting a divorce and mucking around with the resulting child custody dispute in court is a big decision and requires a lot of thought before pressing the proverbial button. Divorces are quite common in our society now. Odds are you know a few people who have gotten divorced or maybe your own parents got a divorced when you were a kid. Regardless of your experience with child custody and divorce, putting a good bit of thought into this kind of thing is extremely important. Splitting up with your ex can have huge impacts on your kids. Knowing how to proceed through your divorce and what options you have available to you will make this a much more pleasant experience. Here are some tips.
- Is This What You Really Want? Getting a divorce and going through the motions of establishing custody or visitation should be a last resort for you and your family. You might want to find what the root of the problem is. A lot of parents find that if they sit down and think about why they want a divorce, they find that the reasons sometimes don’t justify the actions being taken. This obviously shouldn’t be about money, but divorces and child custody cases can be expensive and time consuming. The process of splitting up your family unit can be traumatic to your children as well so it’s important to think everything out before you run out and file a bunch of papers with the court.
- Play By Play. Knowing what to expect in a family legal case such as this will make it easier to not get overwhelmed. A lot of parents find the process of divorcing their ex and petitioning for custody or visitation a daunting task. Getting custody of your kids shouldn’t be like climbing K-2. Keeping your priorities straight is paramount. The main goal here is not to get what you want but to get what’s best for the child. You need to think objectively about the situation. If you live in another state, work long hours, don’t have a very good place to live or don’t make enough money to support a child on your own, you might want to ask yourself if what you’re filing for is really going to work out in the end or if a compromise is in order. It’s not about winning or losing here. It’s about doing what’s right for your children.
Whatever route you decide to take with your family legal issue, knowing what the best option available to you is will make it easier for you to make a move in the right direction. Familiarize yourself with your local laws and statutes. It can be really helpful to have knowledge on your side, especially if you find yourself in a battle with your ex. An unfortunate facet of family law is that both parties can get swept up in the negative feelings that are swirling around the issue. For example, it’s not uncommon for parents to get divorced due to one, or sometimes both, person being unfaithful in the relationship. When something like this happens, feelings of anger and betrayal can run deep and it can be hard to see through the fog to see what really needs to happen instead of just making your ex look bad in front of the judge. Talk to a professional who can advise you on what your options might be or at the very least help you organize your thoughts and demands into a coherent court case.
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