Filing First Can Help You Win Custody Of Your Kids


Filing First Can Help You Win Your Case


There are definite pros and cons to filing first in a child custody or divorce case. In family law, what matters most is what’s down on paper. Having the right things on paper to have a judge look over should be a number one priority. Many parents having to go through family court find themselves overwhelmed at the thought of having to either find the money to hire an attorney or get the right tools to do the job themselves. If you’re nodding your head in the “yes” fashion, here are some tips to help you in your custody case.

  • Take A Look At Your Options. It’s not unheard of for parents gathering the support they need from friends and family to hire an attorney to help them go to court and get custody of their kids. Finding an attorney for your case can be a difficult thing to do. There are a lot of factors involved in choosing the right one and doing your homework on their professional history couldn’t hurt either. In most cases, an attorney is known from within the legal community. The old saying about judges and district attorneys playing eighteen holes on Saturdays has a kernel of truth to it. Talking to people in the professional community can yield some good results about who to work with or maybe shed some light on some concerns you have with your current attorney.
  • First Strike. Whether you’re hiring an attorney or preparing the documents and representing yourself in family court, the goal remains the same. What goes into your documents makes a big difference in the outcome of your case. An attorney will gather all the information they need to properly put down on paper why you want what you’re requesting from the judge and the information that backs this up. In representing yourself, it’s important to get your facts straight. If you’re up against an ex husband or wife that is pulling out all the stops to make you look bad in court, yet you have proof that you are either doing the right thing or that they themselves are not proper parental figures, make sure the judge knows this. You need to make sure that your story makes sense to the judge and that the child’s best interests are taken into account.


The bottom line in this kind of family legal issue is that filing first can improve your chances of getting the custody or visitation arrangement you want for your child. In most cases, it’s better to file first so you are not the one scrambling to find legal assistance under a time constraint; the best defense is a good offense.  If you decide to file first against your ex, make sure it’s for the right reasons. A lot of times these situations can be resolved by proper and effective communication. Serving your ex is a big step and needs to be well thought out. If you’re just trying to get a feel for your options, speak to an attorney or find some legal assistance that can help you outline a plan of action and help you implement it.

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Posted in A Childs Best Interests, Child Custody, Courtroom Preparation, Divorce, Family Court, Fathers Rights, Joint Custody

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