Joint Custody Agreements
If you’re beginning a case in family law, it’s important that you weigh your options carefully and make the decisions that are necessary for the right outcome to come about through the next course of events in your custody or visitation dispute. A lot of parents out there who have gone through a divorce and custody battle will tell you that it can quickly become a messy situation and you can easily become overwhelmed by everything that’s going on. What’s true for a lot of these parents as well is that hindsight is 20/20 and in a lot of cases, separated and dividing up time with the children wasn’t entirely necessary. Here are some tips and information that might be helpful to you in your custody case.
- Look At All Your Options. It’s easy to rush into this kind of thing. Anger, fear and sadness can drive us to make decisions that aren’t as well thought out as we think when we’re in the moment. Mediation can be a great way to peacefully come to an agreement and avoid the mess and expense of going through the court system. In a situation like this, if there is a possibility to get the issue resolved with words not court documents and remain an intact family, take it. However if all the evidence points to this issue continually coming up in the future, getting a court order signed by a judge is a way to protect yourself and your child.
- Get The Right Custody Plan. A lot of parents going through a bad divorce or separation immediately want to go for full custody of their child. This can be the case if they are upset at the mother or father of the child or they feel that they are not a good enough parental figure for the child due to their lifestyle or a number of other reasons. Obviously the latter is a reasonable case for asking for full custody. However, being mad at your ex doesn’t necessarily justify keeping the children away from the other parent. It’s widely agreed that children need both of their parents to have the adequate upbringing they need to fully come into the world as functioning adults with fully developed social skills and emotional awareness. If you’re filing for full custody of your children, make sure you have a good enough reason for this. A judge won’t make a ruling that keeps the child’s father or mother out of their lives if it’s not necessary. Sharing custody of the child and having a joint custody or visitation plan set up is really the best outcome for parents going through a divorce.
Whether you’re deciding to try and settle out of court through mediation or go through the court system, coming to an agreement that works for everyone can be hard. You’re going to have to factor in all the details of both you and your ex’s lives as well as your child’s life. If you’re separated by long distances, this will be harder than if you lived in the same town. If both of you can’t come to an agreement and you have to go through family court and have a judge make a ruling on the situation, coming prepared with a proposal that reflects a more reasonable solution through a joint custody agreement rather than trying to get full custody of the child and push the other parent out of the picture will look better to the judge. Every case is going to be different with unique factors that need to be taken into account in making a good decision. Meeting with a third party to discuss what you can do to get the best outcome you can get out of the situation can be very beneficial. Check with a local attorney or an advocacy group to explore these options.
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