Parents Under Duress
Often times in family law parents are put through the ringer in terms of the stress involved in fighting for custody of their children. It’s not uncommon to hear stories of parents who have been going to court over the same issue for years because their ex keeps bringing it into the court room or they are constantly violating the court order that was originally established or a myriad of other reasons that can cause family legal cases to get drawn out unnecessarily. The best thing you can do for yourself if you find yourself in a stressful court situation is to keep your head straight and your facts straight. Here are some tips for parents going through the family court process and finding the opposition increasingly difficult to deal with.
- Hold Fast. It’s not uncommon for a mother or father to go to court over an issue and have the case extended due to the other party not being prepared, playing shadow games or making it difficult in general for the case to proceed forward. A lot of parents get scared if their ex has hired an attorney and they have not. It is entirely possible to resolve the issue yourself without spending thousands on legal assistance. The first thing you need to know if you go this route is to have everything documented. For example, if your child’s father or mother has already delayed the case to give them more time to prepare their response and they come back to court with a declaration that is obviously full of false information, things like e-mails and text messages that provide contrary information to what they’re presenting to the court is going to help you in your case.
- Cool Your Jets. It’s really easy to wrapped up in the emotional stress that’s involved in going through family law. Whether you’re fighting for custody or visitation, things can get out of hand real quick if you don’t keep your wits about you. It’s unfortunate but sometimes true that people’s ex’s do everything they can do make the other parent look bad in order to win. For the record, it’s not about winning or losing; it’s about what’s best for you child. If you’re focused on slandering the mother or father of your children in an effort to make them lose, you don’t have the best interests of the child in mind. This is a common and grievous mistake some people can make in family law. Stepping back from the situation and focusing on what you’re presenting to the court is what’s important. Getting angry and upset at accusations, name calling or petty games detracts from your case and gives the person that’s doing this what they want. It may sound hokey but taking a few deep breaths and maybe even talking to yourself to get grounded can really improve your mental well being through this process.
Bottom line, if your ex is lying in court, getting upset about it won’t help your case. It’s easy to get upset and that’s what they want because when we’re upset, we make bad decisions and say things that we normally wouldn’t say. Looking into stress reducing exercises, mental or physical, can actually make a difference in your overall perception of your court case. The world we perceive with our eyes is incredibly dependent on what is going on in our minds. If we’re angry, the world is against us; if we’re happy or motivated the world is our oyster.
See more at –> www.AboutTheChildren.org
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