Hi friends! Before we get started, I really want to thank About the Children, LLC for giving me the opportunity to share my words of wisdom. I don’t often discuss divorce in my blog but I have so much to say on the topic that I truly enjoy being able to write these guest posts. I can only hope that by sharing my experiences, people realize that they are not alone in the process of divorce.
With a show of hands, how many of you exercise on a daily basis?
Ok maybe show of hands isn’t the best approach for us to take.
If you follow my blog (which I sure hope you do!), you know that I am strong supporter of getting your 30 minutes a day of exercise.
Without preaching and citing medical jargon (I hate talking about studies and research results) I can tell you from my own experience that simply squeezing in a minimum of 30 minutes of physical activity on a daily basis will make a difference in your health – both physically and emotionally.
KEYWORD FOR US TODAY: EMOTIONALLY
Sure, exercising to fight the battle of the bulge, to build muscle and to reduce your risk of various cancers/diseases is quite important.
But did you that exercise benefits the mind too? It is like medicine.
Your happy pill. Without the pill.
Exercise releases those happy feeling chemicals that they call endorphins.
Just by getting yourself moving, you will be able to naturally calm your nerves, help your mind to think more clearly and better equip yourself to handle all (ok most) situations in a calmer and more collected manner.
Let’s be honest people. Divorce, separation and custody battles are very difficult for everyone involved in the process.
Between court appearances, meeting with your attorney, reading through legal documents in addition to regular life stresses AND RAISING YOUR KIDS all at the same time can be quite overwhelming.
Just opening my mailbox, unsure of what I was going to be hit with, was stressful.
So stressful that I decided to “go green”.
Yep, I contacted as many companies as I could to alert them that I was part of the green movement and would be paperless going forward.
While exercise won’t magically remove the drama and stress that is life (nor will eliminating mail so I learned), exercising for 30 minutes a day will certainly help you to better deal with whatever is thrown your way.
I know it isn’t easy sometimes to find the motivation (or time) to lace up and get moving.
I know because I have been there.
In fact, I recall one morning in particular where I truly wanted to stay home. I didn’t want to go to the gym, I would have preferred to party in my pity to the tune of my-world-as-I-once-knew-it-was-ending-woah-is-me.
BUT GUESS WHAT- I WENT TO THE GYM. I don’t know how I got myself there but I did. I walked on the treadmill at an extremely slow pace. And when I say slow, I mean a 2.0 mph pace.
As I walked (or inched like a snail which gives a better image of how slow I was moving), I noticed a woman on the elliptical machine in front of me.
WEARING A MAGENTA NIGHT GOWN.
In that moment of watching a woman exercise in her pajamas, I smiled and said, “at least I was able to get dressed.”
I think of that moment often. It reminds me how worth it is to push yourself- you will never regret it.
We can laugh at the woman in her pajamas but who knows- maybe she was going through a divorce and was struggling too and pushed herself to get her daily dose of endorphins.
Don’t belong to a gym? No problem.
You have so many options!
- Go for a walk outside (squeeze it in during your lunch break at work!)
- Have a baby? Take them in the stroller for a walk each day.
- Walk through the mall (window shop- I am not encouraging retail therapy)
- Exercise videos (they even make them downloadable from the internet)
- Yard Work (you will never find me doing yard work but I hear it works up a sweat and is quite calming)
Should I continue?
Please note that I am not even telling you to run. Walking actually offers you the same health benefits as more intense forms of exercise.
Although, I do believe that once you get yourself moving on a regular basis, you are more likely to want t0 challenge yourself by attempting to exercise at a more intense level.
In addition to feeling better emotionally, watch how you will inspire your kids to get moving too. Maybe you can go on family walks together.
Maybe, just maybe, you will find that you have a love for exercise like I do; even create a new hobby for yourself!
And if you lose weight in the process? No need to thank me.
Once again Meredith you have come up with a funny and informative blog post for our readers. Thank You!
We encourage all of you reading this post to also follow Meredith’s parenting blog at thecookiechrunicles.com
Meredith has been featured on Dr. Oz and provided much support to parents through her thoughts and wise suggestions as a single mom. We are ecstatic to have her as part of the ATC community.
Please visit AboutTheChildren.org if you or you know someone who is going through a divorce issue and requires help.