The Times They Are a Changin’
As Americans we have an idea of how we want our families to be. Unfortunately, the ideas we have don’t always match up with the reality of the world and the future is always uncertain. That being said though, there are ways that you can ensure that your children get the best possible outcome from any legal battle so their lives are fruitful and fulfilling. With each preceding generation, the goal is to improve upon what was laid down before and increase the overall happiness of the lifestyle our kids go on to have. Scientifically and socially speaking, the idea is to improve the race with each passing generation to ensure the survival of the species. Translated into family legal terms this equates to producing the best possible outcome from a custody battle and divorce based on the best interests of the child and the ability of the parents to uphold this idea for them. Here are some tips for parents going through family legal issues with their respective ex’s and searching for resources to help them along the way.
- Take Stock Of Your Situation. In situations in which you’re emotionally compromised, it’s easy to make the wrong choice without realizing it. It’s common for a mother or father to get served divorce or custody papers by their ex and jump into a case and petition for full custody when the situation dictates a different course of action. If you’re asking the judge for full custody, ask yourself why you’re petitioning the court for this. You shouldn’t be acting out of spite or trying to separate the other parent from the child’s life without a good reason. If they’re involved in illegal activity, abusive to the child or provide an unsafe environment for them to live in, this gives more weight to your claim. However, this should be a last resort and often times the judge will allow some kind of visitation because, statistically speaking, children do better with both parents in their lives.
- Maintain Communication. In any family legal scenario, if you’re not talking to the right people, you’re not going to know what’s going on, and this is a bad thing. Think of it like an empire. If your troops don’t know where they’re supposed to go or where reinforcements are, then the entire operation is going to crumble. Family law isn’t a military operation but the principle is essentially the same; you can’t properly engage in a legal battle if you don’t have the proper information. Whether you’re talking to your ex or their attorney, you need to know when the court date is, what their complaints are or when you need to respond. I’ve talked to a lot of parents that have missed their court dates or didn’t know they had a finite amount of time to respond to what they had been served with or didn’t even know they had been served in the first place. In the majority of those kinds of situations, a little effort at communicating and know what’s going on could have really been a game changer.
Bottom line here folks is to not just let things happen to you. Being proactive in a family legal case concerning custody of your child and/or divorce will give you an advantage. It’s not uncommon for people to be taken advantage of in a divorce, especially if they’re so emotionally invested that they’re vulnerable and not making good decisions. Knowing what your rights are, what you can legally do and what kind of things your ex is doing will help you win your case and get what’s right for your kids.
Learn how at –> www.AboutTheChildren.org
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- How To Effectively Talk To Your Ex In Family Law And Get Custody Of Your Children (aboutthechildrenblog.com)
- New Hampshire Child Custody And Visitation Guidelines (aboutthechildrenblog.com)
- Massachusetts Child Custody and Child Visitation State Guidelines (aboutthechildrenblog.com)