Intimidation In The Court Room
Being intimidated by your ex is a common occurrence in family court scenarios. A lot of the people that call us everyday are afraid to move forward with their case because they don’t want the other parent to retaliate in some way. Either they’ve threatened to move to another state and take the kids with them; they’re holding money over their heads or have some kind of leverage over the person. The bottom line is that people can be manipulative and it’s important to know your rights and you can exercise them. There are a few tips to remain in control of your situation and not let someone else bully you in or out of the court room.
- Keep Track Of Everything. One of the easiest things to do in a court case involving custody or visitation is to not keep records. Some of us tend to think that small details won’t matter or are not worth writing down; this is incorrect. Often times, the small details of the entire context of the situation can shed light on the issue more than larger issues can. For example, you might not think it would be important to keep a receipt from the grocery store or keep records of an email your ex sent you last year, but sometimes you can use stuff like that in your court case as evidence, especially if the other party is bad mouthing you in front of the judge.
- Educate Yourself. The more you know, the better off you’ll be. This is a recurring message in a lot of these posts and the reason is because knowledge is so crucial in these kinds of cases. Having the ability to help yourself can be more valuable than a hot shot attorney you can get downtown, and it’ll save you a lot of time and money in the process. Having access to the internet is going to be a huge help if you need information on your rights as a parent. Cases that are spread out across two or more states can easily become complicated so looking up information about custody or visitation issues that are state specific is also a great place to start.
- Don’t Retaliate. A lot of the time when someone is being antagonistic, they want to generate a response from you. In a court case involving the custody of your children, blowing up at your ex for slandering you could possibly make things worse for your case. If your ex is calling you names, trying to scare or intimidate you or are generally being a nuisance, your best bet is to remain call and don’t give them what they want. The second you lose your cool, they win. In a case like this, it will in fact make them look like the irrational person in all of this if you remain calm and collected while they flail their arms around and get angry.
In any court case, it’s not what you know but what you can prove and bring to the table as hard evidence in the form of facts, dates, times, places or any kind of record of events that took place that led you to be standing in the court room in front of a judge. Paying an attorney thousands of dollars is one to help get your issue resolved but that can come with a risk if funds are low as most lawyers will drop a case if you can’t make the payments. Doing things yourself is a great way to ensure that nobody else is dropping the ball on your case.
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