- You appreciate the little things in life and are grateful, like hearing your favorite song on the radio, hearing a child giggle, eating an ice cream cone like a kid, happy to be talking to a friend, a walk on the beach, etc. When you mind is filled with fear and strife, you often don’t even experience the lack of these simple things in you life. When you go into work in the morning be grateful that you have a job rather than anticipating another day at the grind. If you are having financial difficulties, be grateful that you don’t have to take a loved one to a chemo session. No matter where you are in life, someone always has it worse so rather than dwelling on your own problems, help someone else out and get you mind off of your own problems.
- Don’t sweat the small stuff. People places and things will always let you down. Every person is at a different maturity level in their life and depending where that is, you can be impacted in numerous ways. So if you are surrounded by people that you know are at a lower maturity level than you, don’t sweat the small stuff. Acknowledge where they are and learn how to not let their immaturity affect you. If your teenager’s room is a mess but they are bring home good grades and are holding down a job, don’t sweat the messy room. Focus on the important things that they are accomplishing, they will ‘get’ neatness later.
- Living in the moment makes for a much happier person. People who tend to worry are generally not very happy people. If you are already worrying about next month’s bills then you are much less likely to enjoy today. This is not to say plan ahead for your upcoming bills, but if you dwell on that all the time, a great day can pass you up. Stop worrying about tomorrow or next week, and just enjoy today. Go through your day enjoying each moment, even the hard ones and you will be a much happier person.
- Have goals and /or hobbies. One of the greatest feelings of happiness is when you feel you are accomplishing something. Have something to work towards. Each step that you get closer to your goal will give you a great deal of satisfaction and boost your confidence which ultimately brings happiness. Don’t get stuck in the rut of the same routine all the time. Shake it up, challenge yourself!
- Healthy relationships, whether romantic, friendship, parental, business etc. brings a sense of fulfillment and happiness. Money and power can be great but the old saying is true, “it means nothing if you don’t have someone to share it with”. Make sure that you are continually cultivating positive, healthy relationships in your life. These will bring the most happiness.
- Learn to stay calm through the stresses of life. Every life has stress, whether you are young or old, rich or poor there are always stresses, financial, relationships, business, health, school etc. If you do not learn how to calm yourself down during stressful times it is unlikely that you will go through life happy. You have to learn what works for you to relax and alleviate the stress in your life. For instance, I like to cook. I find it to be a creative outlet and it relaxes and challenges me. For others, cooking is a stressful thing. You have to find what works for you. For some people it’s exercise, painting, dancing, massages, hanging out with the kids, prayer and meditation or reading a good book. There are always a million things that can be done, you just have to go out there and pursue what works for you.
- Smiling is just one of those things that make you feel good. Make yourself conscience of how often you smile throughout the day. You would be surprised. One day I gave myself a goal of smiling at least twenty times at work. It was hard but oddly enough, people noticed and commented on how happy I seemed that day. The truth is nothing in particular was happening during those times, I just chose to smile and people noticed. People respond to happiness, they want it and want to be surrounded by it. I love when I am walking somewhere and when passing a stranger rather than having a blank stare, I smile. It always brings back a sparkle from that person because in a way I have acknowledged their existence and I love when someone smiles at me because I know they see me. We spend too much time focused on ourselves and are so oblivious to the people around us. A little smile goes a long way!
In conclusion, life is just too short not to spend it being happy. Oddly enough just like anything else it takes effort. It just doesn’t just happen and we can easily block it out by busyness, worry, and apathy. Try the above things and see if it doesn’t have a profound effect on your everyday life. You’ll by HAPPY you did!