New Questions & Difficult Decisions
Family law is filled with ups and downs, twists and turns and horror stories about parents being treated unfairly in the court room. There are also great success stories about families being kept together and bonds being strengthened despite the odds they perceive to be against them in the court room. Life is not something that sits still, it’s always moving. What’s important is to know how and when to move with things. Family law is no different. Here is some friendly non-legal advice for parents thinking about their future or parents that feel like they’re in the middle of a storm with no lantern to see the way through.
If you’re in a relationship that’s no longer working, perhaps it didn’t really work out to begin with but you stuck around because of the child and the small life you guys shared, you might be asking yourself some difficult questions: How will I support myself and my son or daughter after a divorce? What rights do I have? What rights do they have? Where do I begin? Rest assured, the majority of parents that have gone to court over a custody, visitation or divorce issue have asked themselves those very same questions. Getting the right information is key and acting in a timely manner doesn’t hurt either.
You might also be someone who has been dealing with this for a few years and haven’t really seen any results come out of this, meanwhile legal fees and debt could potentially be stacking up around you. It’s easy to feel overwhelmed, trapped or even feel like the whole system is against you with something like this. One of the most crucial pieces of advice anyone can give you though, is to not give up. Never tell yourself no. Feeling like the judge won’t listen to you, or that your case won’t go very far because your ex has a better lawyer are all things that real people deal with on a daily basis. The best defense you have against feelings and scenarios like this is knowledge, and the right kind of knowledge.
In family court, what really matters is what is written down in black and white. Forget all the episodes of those crime drama shows on television. Family law is fact driven and the judge’s ruling and what gets written down on your court order for custody, visitation or guardianship is going to count on the facts that are presented in the court room. If your ex is saying you’re mentally unstable and can’t care for the kids properly, prove them wrong. If the father has been abusive to you and the children, have something to back it up. Keep in mind that a domestic argument in the court room is not what needs to happen, nor is it productive. You need to present what you have when it’s your turn to speak and in a logical manner.
While the court process can be expensive and time consuming, it doesn’t necessarily have to be. An attorney who specializes in family law is an excellent resource to have on your side, however they can be costly. It is possible to represent yourself and it’s important to know how to do this if you decide to go in that direction. There are quite a few online resources, national organizations and services for people to make use of; it’s really a matter of finding them and seeing if they’re the right people to assist you with your family law issue. Start now.
Learn how at –> www.AboutTheChildren.org