Parenting At Its Finest
Our experiences and memories of our parents are carried with us for our entire lives. The relationship a child has with their parents, in part, determine their personalities, value systems and sense of what’s right and wrong. In general, how you treat your kids not only affects their mental well being but also helps determine how they will go on to have relationships with their peers or their own children one day. The nature vs. nurture debate is one that can be argued clear unto dawn. Without placing more importance on one or the other, let’s talk about what a person can do to improve their overall relationship with their children and become closer to their families.
- Things You Can Do Together. Engaging your kids in activities that both of you can do together is essential to building and maintaining a relationship with your children. We all remembering doing someone for the first time with our parents. Whether it’s tying our shoes, going to your first basketball game or seeing the Grand Canyon, those experiences inspire positive feelings and memories of your parents. If you have negative memories of your parents it affects the relationships we go on to have. Even doing small stuff like having a weekly routine of what you do for dinner or helping them with their homework creates positivity and stability in their lives.
- Consistency. Coming through some of the time is not really being there. There’s an old saying that, “pert ‘near ain’t near enough.” If you’re a single parent with shared visitation time with your child it’s hard to not being to spend as much time as you’d like to with your kids. Having a regular schedule when they stay with you is a good way to establish consistency in their lives. When they know you’re going to pick them up on Wednesday night, it gives them a sense of security. It matters to kids if you don’t show up when you’re supposed to or make promises that get broken. Your word is your bond.
Being a good parent just comes down to being there for your kids and doing the best you can to give them what they need to fully realize their potential. Experiences during childhood are the most important defining factors in our adult lives. If you’re new to the parenting scene, there are plenty of resources available across the country for new parents trying to bond with their kids. Whether you’re a parent that is away from your child for extended periods of time due to your job or you are just trying to build a better relationship with your children, anytime you spend with them is good time.
- Single Parents Raise Good Kids Too! (gastoniafamilylaw.com)
- ‘A third of parents row every week’ (bbc.co.uk)