Being A Single Parent
Being a single parent is hard, no question about it. A lot of parents don’t realize the difficulty of being a single parent in today’s world. Most people are so focused on the issue of their divorce and court case that they simply don’t plan ahead or see that far into their future to think about what it will be like for their kids to have to move to a new home, maybe a new school and be split up from the family in general. Some parents that find themselves in this position might have to develop a whole new relationship with their children if the circumstances of life before the divorce were different. It’s important to remember to keep busy and maintain the stability that your children need to maintain their grip on reality. Here are some tips for single parents out there who are just coming onto the scene of single parenthood or for parents that just need more information about how to build or maintain their relationship with their kids.
- Keeping Up Appearances. Children need stability and routines to learn how to act in the world, make decisions and develop emotionally and socially. Making this transition as smooth as possible should be your number one priority. If you’re a mother or father getting divorced from your ex, odds are you will be moving to a new place to live; there are rare occurrences where both parents are separated and still living in the same house temporarily which can makes things a little more difficult for the child. For them, their whole world is being turned upside down. Having things as close to “normal” for them is very important. Little things like their favorite toys, stuffed animals, blankets, movies etc. will help them be more comfortable in their new surroundings if they have had to relocate.
- Fun And Engaging Activities. As children, we look to our parents for guidance and support. As you progress through your divorce and move past it and start to rebuild your lives, you need to make sure that your children aren’t dwelling on things too much. A good way to do this is to keep them busy with fun and productive things and activities. If you’re a single father, any activity you guys do together are good activities. Anything from playing outdoors, going to the zoo and learning new things will help them cope. Another thing you can do is share your interests with them. If you’re a mechanic and you have a son, a perfect father son activity would be to work on your car. If you’re an outdoorsman, teaching your son or daughter the basics of outdoor sporting is a great way to bond with them. This goes for single mothers too. Your kids want to be a part of your life, sharing your interests with them is a great way, overall, to share experiences together.
Building and maintaining relationships is part of being a human being. The relationships we have with our children have more far reaching consequences than a lot of people think about. How you decide to handle the transition for them and how they cope with their parents splitting up will partially determine how they go on to interpret and interact with the world. Teaching your kids healthy habits and communication skills will enable them to go on to be productive people. This time you have with them when they are children is important not only because they’re your kids and you get to watch them grow up but also because how you raise your kids determines how they raise their own children in the future. You’re sowing the seeds for the future of the human race, make no mistake about it. For more tips on parenting and how to maintain relationships within the family you can check out local community resources where you live. The internet is also a great resource for this kind of stuff. Whether it’s information on how to talk to your kids about important life lessons or just ideas for what to do on a Sunday afternoon, there are tons of online resources out there for parents.
Read more at –> www.AboutTheChildren.org
- Raising Children In Separate Homes As A Single Parent (aboutthechildrenblog.com)